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When Should You Seek Counseling?
When should you explore couples counseling? On the Gottman Relationship Blog, Terri A. Ammirati, LCPC offers tips to help you seek support for your relationship. Please note: our social media posts are not meant to address situations of abuse. For immediate support, please contact thehotline.org.
Fall Rituals of Connection
What are your favorite fall rituals of connection that you share as a family? Rituals help us create space for emotional connection. They also help us process our feelings as we navigate life’s transitions and to stay connected despite conflict. Explore fun ways to reconnect with your loved ones on the Gottman Relationship Blog.
Yes or No Questions
Whether you're just getting to know each other or have been together for years, it's important to keep dating your partner. One of the easiest ways to reconnect is to ask meaningful, open-ended questions and be fully present in conversations. The more you learn about each other, the more you can create shared meaning together. Enhance your relationship with research-based exercises from Gottman Relationship Coach today.
How to Build Trust with Your Partner After Infidelity
Learning to trust again after betrayal can be extremely challenging, but there's reason to be hopeful under certain conditions. Terry Gaspard, MSW, LICSW explores steps for couples to rebuild trust and move forward after betrayal.
Bids Are Fundamental
"Maybe it’s not the depth of intimacy in conversations that matters. Maybe it doesn’t even matter whether couples agree or disagree. Maybe the important thing is how these people pay attention to each other, no matter what they’re talking about or doing.” - Dr. John Gottman Successful couples are attentive. Start turrning towards your partner's bids for connection with Gottman Relationship Coach: Feeling Seen and Heard. Get started today.
The Digital Age: Self-Esteem
How do you feel about your boundaries with technology? What role does digital communication play in your relationships and self-esteem? The psychological effects of communicating in cyberspace matter. They are just as real as your feelings offline. Dive deeper into this topic on the Gottman Relationship Blog.
The Dark Side of Anger
"When you notice that one or both of you seem to be flooded and overwhelmed, then it is important to agree to take a break from the conversation." Master Certified Gottman Therapist Dr. Robert Navarra offers advice for couples to manage challenging emotions on the Gottman Relationship Blog. Please note: The relationship suggestions on our social media are not intended to address situations of abuse. For immediate support, please contact thehotline.org.
Gottman Relationship Bingo
Have you started the Gottman Relationship Bingo challenge? Add playfulness into your partnership, intensify your physical connection, and have deeper conversations—all while playing this Gottman Method-inspired version of bingo available to our Love Notes newsletter subscribers. Sign up for Love Notes to start playing today.
How to Accept Your Partner's Needs (And Express Your Own)
Are you and your partner expressing your desires and boundaries in ways that deepen your connection? Discover research-based tools and exercises for communicating your needs with help from Gottman Relationship Coach. Get started today.
What to Expect When You Go to Couples Therapy
"I tell my clients that most of us did not take a couples communication class in high school. Couples therapy is where you go to learn how to be better partners. It’s not about blaming, finding fault, or laying down criticism." Wondering what to expect when you start couples counseling? Certified Gottman Therapist Dr. Dana McNeil shows you how to nurture your relationship through Gottman assessments.
Fall Date Inspiration
What's your favorite fall activity to share with your loved one? For the Gottman Relationship Bingo Challenge, we're asking couples to go on an autumn-themed date. Share your ideas below or tell us what you're looking forward to doing with your partner this fall. Don't have your copy of our free Gottman Relationship Bingo card? Sign up for Love Notes to get yours today and start the challenge!
Why Sleep Matters in Your Relationship
Join us October 15, 12PM-1PM PT for our live webinar exploring sleep and relationship health. Whether it’s stress, snoring, or sheet stealing that’s keeping you up, internationally recognized sleep researcher and clinical psychologist Dr. Wendy Troxel will show you how vital it is to “sleep like your relationship depends on it” because in many cases, it does. Register today.
Gottman Relationship Bingo
Rituals of connection are routine moments of joy and affection you share with your partner. This could be a daily chat on the phone, an evening walk together, or another activity you both enjoy. Add new rituals to your romance this fall by playing Gottman Relationship Bingo, available to our Love Notes newsletter subscribers. Sign up for Love Notes and start playing today.
The Gottmans on Compatability, Conflict & Conversation
"Arguments about money are almost always arguments about what money means. And underneath there is really about your values, about how to live life and what life means." -Dr. John Gottman Drs. John and Julie Gottman sat down with intimacy expert, Dr. Emily Morse to unpack common relationship stressors ranging from finances to compatibility. Listen today.
The Transition to Parenthood
Are you ready for the transition to parenthood? In our evidence-based webinar, you'll learn how to gain relationship satisfaction as new parents and discover tips for nurturing your child's emotional wellbeing. Use promo code "PARENTHOOD50" for 50% off your purchase today.
Do You Validate Each Other?
How do you validate your partner's feelings during conflict? Validation doesn’t mean you agree, but that you can understand even a small part of your partner’s experience. It's about you both feeling understood and, ultimately, loved. Discover communication and conflict resolution tools to boost your connection with Gottman Relationship Coach programs today.
"Who Am I?"
What has your relationship taught you about yourself? To love is to learn. Your relationship is an ongoing journey of discovery about your partner, yourself, and your life together. On our Gottman Relationship Blog, Dr. John Gottman offers prompts to help you reflect on the past and look forward to the future.